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Insight into Our Dead bedroom and the End of Relationship

2021.10.26 02:41 Toffee55 Insight into Our Dead bedroom and the End of Relationship

Hello Friends,
My guy and I broke up in 2019, early December, after nearly 20 years together. We had a dead bedroom for a year and a half. Then he told me he had fallen out of love with me but loved me. Long story. Here's the very brief coles notes...
1) His family was incredibly toxic, one verified psychopath the other a covert narcissist
2) When we lived away from his family absolutely no problems. Sex was fantastic for many years.
3) Moved for his education back to the city where his parents lived. Worst mistake ever.
4) His family were consistently and considerably invasive, destructive. My husband/partner basically withdrew (he has an avoidant attachment style) and I went to anxious attachment style. I began to criticize his parent and that was my mistake. In hindsight, what I needed to do was this,"My Love, that's it, I can't take anymore. This is what is happening (list all the shit that has gone down and continues to go down that he knew but we weren't talking about), this is how it makes me feel (this would be things like, I don't see you anymore, you are playing video games all day, we missed our anniversary four years in a row because of his family - it was so completely insane we actually forgot it 4 years in a row, we don't date, go out on dates, we don't plan for our lives, build things, get involved in our community, hobbies, nothing. It's all about your family and the latest daily drama and nothing about us, or each other. I need you to be in this relationship, I need a partner. You are here but you are not here and I am feeling very isolated, very alienated, very lonely and I can't go on like this. It's just too painful."
I've done a lot of research into narcissistic family systems and there are only two ways to deal with them. You have to be on the same page, call it all out as it is and become united. You put up VERY strict boundaries and if they keep pushing and working around those boundaries (as his covert father always did) you fucking MOVE! They don't call it the geographic cure for nothing.
5) I realize now, in hindsight, that I became so codependant with him and also, I was calling out what I was seeing but the kicker is, he didn't want to see ANYTHING when it came to his Dad. He NEEDED to believe his Dad wasn't doing what he was doing, just that he was "difficult". I then got painted as the problem, in fact, so much so that he began to dream of me as his mother who was always critical of his father. So, there you go, I was hoisted by my own petard. I had no idea. But his Dad sure did. I didn't realize I completely fell into his trap. Well played Alan old man. Well played.
So, if I had it all to do again, I would have had the guts, the courage, to call out in a very clear and non-caustic way, just a matter of fact, for that is what it was, that things could not go on as they had been going on for years. Do I think that would have changed things? Maybe, maybe not. But at least I would have felt way more empowered. But, things happenned as they did and there is one HUGE benefit to it and that is this. I have learned, never to put my faith in my spouse. Through this all I have come back to God and Christ, my Beloved, and He has been there in ways I can't even describe. There have been miracles and great communications of love. I have decided now, I have learned, to look to my Higher Power for guidance, protection and aid. If I ever get in another relationship, whomever it is, they will have to earn my trust. I have been WAY too giving and loving. This time, it will be according to what I need. Relationships are reciprocal, interdependent. I won't make excuses for this again.
Do I still love him? I sure do. Would I take him back? Yes, maybe, but there would have to be total honesty and it would take time. We are two completely different people now. That girl that fell in love with him is gone baby, gone. I am not who I was. And he would have to face up to THE TRUTH what his father did and how that affected him, myself and our relationship. And we have to see in similar ways life, God, truth, compassion and forgiveness. He decided he needed to be by himself, alone, because he doesn't know who he is or what he wants. He's 41. That's what happens when you are swallowed whole by a virulently toxic family system that plugged in and fed from you for 40 years.
As for me, I have moved back to the city I lived in before I met him and where we lived for 5 of the best years of my life and his. I am back in university to finish the degree I started when we met. I gave way too much to him and his family. I am angry at myself for doing so. But, I am holding, I have decided to trust God in what He has planned and by the miracle of love, somehow, I don't think this is quite over yet. We are still in touch here and there but are each on our own paths and I always will be now even if I do get into another relationship. Not going to uproot, again, everything for someone else. Nope.
My heart breaks for you all. I KNOW the pain of this. He was my absolutely best friend, kindred soul. I trusted him more than I trusted myself and yep, that wasn't good, lol. But I have learned, and you know, it's sad because the way we met and how we were together really was too good to be true. We'll see how the story ends. But for now, it is as it is, I am alone and some nights are really kind of lonely. Especially with covid draggin on.
Take care of yourselves. They do not define your worth. Even though they may treat you like shit, in the end, it really is about them and my stuff was about me. I've had to rebuild my self-worth, my, well, everything and I thank God for rescuing me.
With Much Love,
Toffee
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